I read a disturbing post
yesterday, which gave a small snippet of insight into the difficulties that go along with planning a same-sex wedding. Miss Gingerbread
is Weddingbee's first blogger that is marrying another female. I'm really looking forward to hearing more about her experiences with other wedding vendors. Of course I hope they're all positive but I'm afraid it'll be more challenging for her than a heterosexual bride. Even small details like buying a cake topper will be tricky.
I also recently came across photos from Julie & Kaori's wedding
on snippet & ink
, another fabulous wedding blog. This wedding took place in California and was captured by photographer Leah McCormick
Don't those photos just make you go "awww....
"?? These two fabulous ladies actually look more in love than many of the clients we find ourselves working with.
While we haven't had the opportunity to plan a same-sex wedding before, everyone here at Soiree
always jumps at the chance to work with unique couples. I can think of a lot of wedding vendors in the local DC area that would love to be involved in a supportive, professional manner. Besides, how can a same-sex celebration differ from any other wedding? Besides the 'grooms cake' having a stupid name (and pointless purpose, I might add...), what else is different?
According to Wikipedia
(yes, favorite unreliable resource....), same-sex couples should aim for Massachusetts, Connecticut, Vermont, New Jersey, California, New Hampshire, Maine, Hawaii, DC, Oregon, or Washington to celebrate their nuptials. Of course you'll want to double and triple check with the rules of your local courthouse....the laws seem to change every other week due to this controversial topic. Like LeVar Burton
says, "don't take my word for it.
If you've had your heart set on marrying in your home state or another location, why not hit the courthouse elsewhere the week before and have the wedding as planned? We also recommend this maneuver for heterosexual couples who want a non-ordained friend to marry them. There are plenty of officiants who would take part in the ceremony and skip the paperwork side of things.Political and religious opinions aside
, what do you think? Will the wedding community really ever be 'gay-friendly'? Does it rely on the business owners and their own personal beliefs? I hope someday everyone will jump on the bandwagon...